Connections carry their own life. A relationship is influenced by the particular soul path, history, psyche and environment of each individual involved –– but is also, in a way, a home of its own. We might ask, What is a relationship's center of gravity? What is created, lost, released or absorbed within its walls?What are the main pillars that comprise the foundation of a connection? What does the other person invite each individual to heal, grow, change & surrender within themselves? To presume the unique life of a particular relationship meets each individual's fantasies, hopes, projections & desires might be to miss the honest gifts, opportunities & challenges of what's really there.
Areas within our relationships asking for change will present themselves in various ways. Intimacy Issues. Harmful Approaches to Conflict. Un-repaired Ruptures. Insecure Attachment Styles. Un-Coupling, Separation & Divorce. Infidelity. Communication Breakdowns. Different Life Visions. Poorly Defined Boundaries. Shame & Hiding. Enmeshment, Isolation & Codependency. . .
Humanity is wounded from giving & receiving love well. But Wilfred Bion said, "blame is a failure of understanding."We change when we are ready to engage honestly within ourselves the particular dynamics & feelings alive in our connections with each other –– when we open to the grief and gifts that stand before us in the face of another. And we begin developing greater clarity, grace, accountability, tolerance and forgiveness in our relationships.